open relationships.

Mar 30, 2006 / Filed in Gay / 14 Comments

two gay men kissingOkay, my friend Kirk brought this topic up and I’ve decided I want to talk about it. I know it’s controversial, and I’m not trying to make any enemies. I discussed a few controversial things last year, and it didn’t go over too well with my readers.

Less restrictions, less problems, right?

The concept of “open relationships” is pretty well-known in the gay community, and it’s actually becoming increasingly popular with straight people too. It allows you the ability to choose a partner, but still have the freedom to sleep with whomever you want.

Millions of couples break up each year because somebody has been unfaithful. By eliminating the concept of cheating, it appears that the relationship is more secure. If you never have to worry about your partner cheating, then you never have to worry about the relationship failing, right?

Nothing worth having comes easily

Well, maybe not. Nothing is that simple. I believe the best things in life are the ones that you have to fight for. Is it easy making that first car payment? No, but you worked for it. Is it easy buying that first house? No, but you worked for it. Is it easy to commit to one person? No, but you worked for it.

I’m not saying relationships are the same as a car or a house. But all good things come with hard work. Let’s say you’ve been single. You’ve dated all kinds of schmucks, looking for “the one”. So now you’ve found that special person. Why would you want to share them with someone else? Why would you want to jeopardize a special bond that only 2 people can understand?

Yes, fidelity is difficult

I’m not a saint. I’ve been with my partner Rodney for 5 years. Yes, my fidelity has been tested many times. But Rodney is my best friend. We have a very special relationship that nobody else sees. When we are alone, we are vulnerable, we are honest, we are tender and loving. I can truly say that none of our friends or family have ever witnessed the connection we have when it’s just the 2 of us. If a 3rd person was involved, all that would be broken.

I do understand the benefits of open relationships. It’s like having your cake and eating it too. It’s like having a whole new dimension of sex available to me at anytime. I can go to a bar and have some guy suck my cock in the corner without any guilt. Kinky, adventurous, exciting. Yes, I know.

But how do I know where my life is going if I don’t even know I’ve got something solid in my home? What if one of us makes a mistake, and contracts an STD? We’d always have to worry about safety. And what happens if one of us develops a relationship with a 3rd person? Do we have to divide our time equally?

Don’t pretend it doesn’t happen. I know all about the rules. “Don’t kiss, don’t talk about personal things, don’t sleep with the same person twice.” But we are humans, not robots. We feel things emotionally. There are no guarantees we won’t get attached to someone else, and then what happens to our relationship?

What works for me might not work for you

I’ve said all this because it’s how I feel about open relationships. Not everybody has a relationship like mine. What works for me might not work for others.

So after saying all that, I want to point out that I do accept the fact that some people do have open relationships. Part of it is just human nature. I have never picked up a guy at a bar, I have never had a one night stand. Actually, I’ve never been sexually involved with someone I wasn’t in a relationship with first.

Sex is not casual for me. And I guess the core issue of open relationships is sex. So if your life relies heavily on sex with multiple people, then open relationships are probably right for you.

But my life, better yet my life with Rodney, is built around every aspect of a relationship. We are selfish and we are not willing to share any part of this relationship with 3rd people. We like feel stable and secure with what we have, and we don’t want anyone to interfere.

This is how open relationships fit into our life. What works for you might be completely different.

Wincest makes girls wet.

Mar 24, 2006 / Filed in Gay, Humor / 24 Comments

supernaturalYou learn something new everyday. And I’ve learned a lot today!

Last November, I caught on to the WB series “Supernatural”. It’s about 2 brothers who travel around fighting spirits, ghosts, and other paranormal. After seeing a few episodes, I thought these guys were really gay (and really hot!). So I wrote a post called “Supernatural is Supergay”. It was all a big joke, of course. But it has steadily picked up traffic from “Supernatural” fan sites and it’s pissed off plenty of people along the way.

I’ve now discovered a whole new level of “Supernatural” fans. Apparently there is a term called “wincest”. The brothers’ fictional last name is Winchester. So they’ve combined the words “Winchester” and “Incest”.

So these fans get together and write fictional stories about the brothers having a romantic affair. They call it “wincest” and they write all these sexual fantasies about the 2 guys getting it on.

WTF? Really? Further, these are girls writing them. Yeah. Girls are getting off on hot stories about the 2 brothers having mansex.

Here’s an excerpt from kitipurr:

“Sam slung one leg over his, one knee moving between Dean’s so Sam could rub their groins together. The friction was delicious, and Dean groaned as Sam’s lips moved up to find his, tongue pressing for entrance gratefully given. They moved against each other, hands exploring lazily.”

Gosh, I am really out of touch with the dating scene. Is that the new thing? Are women twirling their holes to gay guys?

Well, I dunno what to say. I’m not a big fan of incest, but I’m just fascinated that women get off to this. Who knew?

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ricky

I love the new super improved closet-case Ricky Martin. He’s hotter, blacker, and more sexually confused than ever.

And don’t worry about the scene where he pours creamy milk all over his face and chest. There’s nothing gay about that.

On a sidenote, I thought the scene where the 2 women were humping was very hetero, indeed. That’ll throw them off!

Click here to watch Ricky’s new video, “It’s Alright”.

(Your song title says it all, Ricky. It is alright. Come on out.)

stroke my ego.

Mar 16, 2006 / Filed in Gay, Sex / 5 Comments

AdamMale Provides “Heart-On” for One Popular Blogger
Published: March 15, 2006 {Press Release for AdamMale.com}

Hillsborough, N.C. – AdamMale, a gay, adult mail order catalog and Web company, is providing thrills to one very observant blogger.

In a series of ongoing articles about AdamMale, Blogger Nathan used his online space to record his likes and dislikes about the popular AdamMale catalog – everything from catalog copy to product photos was critiqued.

Much to his surprise, AdamMale was listening – and Nathan noticed!

Several updates to his blog include references to how photos were changed and copy was edited, in accordance to his marketing tips and suggestions.

“When someone gives you such sage advice, it has to be rewarded,” said company spokesman Craig Ledford. “We sent Nathan a large basket of AdamMale.com’s best offerings for helping us out.”

AdamMale is a sister company of Adam & Eve, a company with more than 30 years of experience in providing premium customer satisfaction through its catalog, Web and home parties endeavors.

For more information, visit http://www.AdamMale.com

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AdamMale Gives Loving To Its Customers
Published: March 16, 2006 {Blog Entry on Queerty.com}

We consider the gay adult products catalog to be something pretty utilitarian: an old friend that is there when we need him, even if he’s kind of plain. He gets the job done, even if the “taste level isn’t quite there,” in the words of Project Runway Judge/Editor-in-Chief of Elle magazine Nina Garcia. And we thought he was pretty content the way he is.

Nathan over at Nathan Exposed thought differently, and decided to poke fun at his favorite adult catalog, AdamMale, in a hilarious post that picks apart some of their more awful photos and suggests changes. When he received his next catalog, the photo at left had been changed! He suspected they had read his blog, and it turns out he was correct.

They just sent him a huge gift basket containing a little bit of everything, from porn to cockrings to dirty playing cards. But the best prize of all was the giant bottle of “Wet: Platinum” lube. That stuff costs as much as a romantic dinner for two, and lasts so much longer.

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Thanks for all the attention guys! I agree with Queerty.com about the Wet Platinum. It’s gooood 😉

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manbag.

Mar 15, 2006 / Filed in Gay / 13 Comments

manbagI’ve said it before, I’m a late adopter. I guess manbags have been in style for awhile now.

I’m happy to say I have my very own fagbag manbag. It’s not fancy or expensive. Just a simple black bag from Target. But the inside is a bright shade of green. Very cool.

I LOVE IT! How did I go this long without one? I cram everything in it. Books, papers, keys, magazines, iPod, cat (oops! sorry Purr Purr). There’s even space for a laptop if I ever get one.

I know I’m not the only dude sporting one of these things. Tell me about your manbag!

I Heart AdamMale

Mar 14, 2006 / Filed in Gay, Sex / 13 Comments

adammaleThe Backstory: Last winter, I posted an entry poking fun at some of the photos in AdamMale’s catalog. A few months later, I received a new AdamMale catalog and it appeared that they had re-shot one of the photos as a result of my blog entry. So I posted a follow-up saying that I had influenced the marketing of AdamMale, and asked them to send me some porn as incentive for helping their catalog.

The Update: To my surprise, I received an e-mail from James at AdamMale, confirming that their catalog really was influenced by my blog. So today, I received a huge box of goodies from James. He covered all the bases. Cockrings, ball weights, butt plugs, dildos, dirty playing cards, porn DVD’s, and a gigantic bottle of lube!

A Word of Thanks: I want to thank AdamMale for being so cool about everything. They have a great sense of humor, and James has been extremely generous to me. This also speaks volumes about their customer service. They clearly care what consumers think of their catalog, and are willing to make improvements based on feedback. I think that’s awesome.

What Really Tickles Me: I can’t help laughing when I imagine James picking out the products he sent me. What was the thought process? Did he read my blog and try to figure out what I’d like? Did he wonder “Who is this ‘Nathan Exposed’ guy anyway”? Just thinking about someone picking out porn for me makes me laugh :)

What This Means for My Readers: James has set-up a special coupon code for my readers!

Visit AdamMale.com and enter coupon code “NATHAN” to receive 25% off your purchase! How sweet is that?

Final Point: I think AdamMale is an all-around great company. They have been incredibly receptive to my feedback, and very professional about everything. Let’s face it, most of us have bought porn or some kind of adult product at some point. I’m not ashamed to say it. If you want a great selection of videos, toys, and accessories, I highly recommend them. I have bought products from them in the past, and they are very reliable and discreet.

Check them out at AdamMale.com and don’t forget to enter coupon code “NATHAN” at checkout to get 25% off!

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fall out boy… fall out

Mar 8, 2006 / Filed in Gay / 15 Comments

fall out boy

Okay, I’ll admit it. I’m not a huge fan of dicks. I’ve always been more of a butt man. But whatever.

When a celebrity decides to show us his cock, I’ll take a looksy.

So the gossip sites are buzzing with cock shots of Pete Wentz, of the group Fall Out Boy. The first rumor was that they were stolen, but now apparently he intentionally sent them to a friend, who has now leaked them online.

I’ve always thought Pete was gorgeous and I *love* these photos. Why? Because Pete manscapes his cock. How hot is that? Gee, I haven’t been this excited since I saw Robbie Williams masturbating last October.

However…I think the REAL question on everyone’s mind is this —

What the fuck is going on with that bathroom wallpaper? It’s hideous! Wallpaper is evil, there are no exceptions. And that moon pattern is soooo ’80’s. Not in a cool way, but a seriously outdated way. And why is there a Morrissey poster pinned to the wall? Somebody call Martha!

Click here to see the uncensored pics.

real journalism.

Mar 7, 2006 / Filed in Gay / 6 Comments

red_ribbonI think it’s important to give people praise when they deserve it. That’s why I’m extending a big “thank you” to News Channel 5 in Nashville.

I think it goes without saying that Nashville is a conservative city. Well, that’s what people claim. But I don’t always fall for it. At its best, Music City is a very diverse, very open minded city. You simply can’t stop diversity from thriving.

Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, News Channel 5 ran a segment about Vanderbilt hospital’s new HIV/AIDS campaign. Vanderbilt is working hard to test new medicines for the disease. And they want everyone to help out.

Vanderbilt is launching a powerful print ad campaign, targeted at recruiting volunteers. The ad campaign covers all races, age groups, genders, and sexual orientations. News Channel 5 covered the story with a great deal of depth and professionalism.

I was so impressed because they never made it seem like a “gay disease”. The reporters made it very clear that HIV/AIDS touches everyone in the community. They were not judgemental or opinionated. They just sent a clear and strong message that we must all come together to help.

There was one ad that shows a gay couple. I noticed the camera gave equal attention all ads, including that one. I’m assuming this ad will be seen all over the city.

After the segment, there was that moment of transition to the next story. I expected the news team to be uptight and uncomfortable. But they seemed very touched. They even made a comment on how important the issue is and what a good story it was. Wow.

To me, this is the news that matters. I don’t care about the Oscars, I don’t care if Britney is pregnant again. I care about making a difference in people’s lives. Hopefully this segment opened people’s eyes. Because if we can’t help each other, what is the purpose of being here?

Kudos to you, News Channel 5 and Vanderbilt.

hey, look at my ass!

Feb 24, 2006 / Filed in Gay, Humor / 17 Comments

mirrorOkay, okay… now I need some honest answers here, people.

One of my lady friends, who will remain anonymous, claims she’s never used a mirror to check out her ‘gina and asshole.

Bullshit!

If I had a ‘gina, I know I’d be looking at it in the mirror. And of course I’ve checked out my asshole. Surely everyone has. How else will you know what it looks like?

Whatever. Everybody has put a mirror down there. Am I wrong?

anal bleaching

Feb 22, 2006 / Filed in Gay, Humor / 13 Comments

bleachIs it real or simply an urban legend?

Apparently anal bleaching is a hot trend growing in popularity. The concept is simple – lighten the color around your asshole so that is doesn’t look like…well…an asshole.

So I’ve done my research, and there is actually very little documentation about it. Apparently it’s very top secret. Most sites consider it a joke or a myth.

The first mainstream discussion of anal bleaching was in April 2000, when gossip columnist Ted Casablanca reported that Lara Flynn Boyle was having her anus bleached. (That damn Lara, she’s always stirring up trouble.)

So is it real or not?

Apparently it is, and it doesn’t involve bleach at all. The chemicals involved in anal bleaching are simply skin lighteners, similar to what people use to even out dark spots on their face or body.

Who would bleach their asshole? I think assholes look just fine the way they are. Is there no end to the cosmetic craziness people will go through?

I guarantee this trend all started with some silly housewife in Beverly Hills. I can just see her and her friends running out to get their assholes bleached, along with their botox and lip injections.

Bleh.

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