Two of my readers recently e-mailed me some interesting questions, and one asked if I would either post my response on the blog or send it back via e-mail. Well, I think they are both questions worth discussing, so I’m answering each here. Obviously, I won’t include their names.
So for Question #1, I was asked how a man should prepare to receive anal sex. That’s a great question and it’s something every gay man has to ask at some point.
I’ll go ahead and divulge this little secret - the first time I had sex with a guy, he wasn’t “prepared”. My dick came out looking like a fudgesicle. True story. He was mortified. I was (surprisingly) not that freaked out. The only thing I cared about was making it to the finish line. 
You should start by making sure you have a healthy diet. Your poop should be solid and pass without strain. You should also have a fairly clean swipe on your toilet paper. If you don’t, it may be due to drinking too much coffee or not getting enough fiber in your diet. It could also be from stress. There are many factors, but the bottom line is that a clean swipe is a good sign.
If you have clean bowel movements, it means preparing for anal sex will be much easier. So let’s assume everything was clean. Make sure you have a bowel movement prior to having sex. Then, I recommend using a lubricated finger and poking around up there.
If you do feel something, remove your finger and see if you can squeeze it out. Be gentle and don’t hurt yourself. I recommend this because if there’s anything on your finger, that means the sex will be messy. Prevention is your friend!
So let’s say everything was good up there. Take a shower or bath, whichever you prefer. Pay attention to cleaning your hole, but don’t be aggressive because you can tear the lining. Just clean it like you normally would.
You’ve probably heard a lot about enemas. Well, enemas are not advised. First, they can damage the inner lining and cause irritation. If you do them often, you can lose the ability to have natural bowel movements.
Also, if you aren’t clean enough to have anal sex after a normal bowel movement, the enema will usually just make it worse.
If you’re eating healthy and have a normal bowel cycle, preparing for anal sex should be easy! Just be sure you’re clean first, because you’ll feel confident, and your partner will appreciate it too.
Life is not always perfect. Remember, I ended up with poop on my dick during my first time. These things do happen, but just laugh them off and go on!
And, as I must always say, be sure to have safe sex! No excuses, ever! Your partner should respect your health and his own. 
Here are some helpful links to get you started:
- Buy Anal-Eze from AdamMale to reduce pain and/or discomfort during anal sex
- Get plenty of lube to ensure a smooth ride
- Don’t forget the condoms to protect you and your partner!
Happy Humping!
I’ve written 2 different posts for today, but decided not to publish either.
Any suggestions on something you’d like to hear about?
I enjoyed this segment so much that I’m doing another one.
JJD asked: “If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all.. and yet, the truth will set you free. How do you reconcile these two opposing adages in your own life?”
Great question. I generally prefer to not say anything at all. I like to weigh out the situation. If the truth is going to hurt someone, I have to ask myself how much it’s really worth. Will it damage the relationship forever? If so, why risk it? I don’t like taking risks when emotions are at stake.
These rules all disappear if I am hurt, angry, or personally offended. That’s when I choose to let the truth set me free. I don’t like to keep things bottled up, so I can be scathing at times. That’s when the truth really hurts.
Readers - what are your thoughts on this? Which path do you usually choose?
Also, I’m still open to more questions
Update: Hmmm…I think this was taken out of context. Some of the comments have made me question how this post was perceived. I think I was even being called a liar, but I’m not sure.
As a general rule, I prefer the phrase “If you can’t say something nice…” because it avoids silly conflicts in our daily lives. That doesn’t mean I lie. It also doesn’t mean I’m going to withhold the truth in a serious matter.
If it’s something serious, then yes I’m going to say something. But I thought this was a light-hearted question, not a serious one.
Earlier today, I asked readers to list topics they would like me to discuss. I decided to go with Sunshine’s suggestion. He asked:
“What are some of the things you want to do in your life time that you haven’t done yet?”
I know it’s a simple one, but it really forced me to dig deep. Thanks Sunshine.
I think something I would really like to do is take Rodney on a surprise vacation to Paris and completely spoil him for a week. I would be at my romantic best - dining in candle-lit restaurants, dancing in the moonlight, telling him how much he means to me under the stars. Roses and champagne, kisses and little handwritten love notes… Anything to remind him of how much I love him.
Ah, this was fun. We should do it again. Thanks for all your suggestions guys. I’m still open for next time, so feel free to recommend some more! Thanks.
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