I’m a very sensitive guy.

If someone doesn’t know that about me, then it’s probably safe to assume they don’t know me at all.

A few days ago, I vaguely mentioned that I was seeing someone. This was met with some pretty strong comments. I didn’t post them, because quite frankly I don’t feel like reading them each time I come to my own safe haven site.

Some people thought I was being careless, reckless… downright stupid. Others thought I was just having a fling, a fuck buddy, etc. In other words, I wasn’t being taken seriously on a subject that was serious to me.

This struck a nerve with me on so many levels. Mainly, it bothered me because I am not the type of person to have “flings”. I never have. I do all things with authenticity and genuine feelings.

Second, I wouldn’t have mentioned Brandon unless he meant something to me. A blog is just a very brief and very one sided view of a person’s life. There are obviously a lot of variables in my relationships that I couldn’t possibly convey in my posts. So you just have to take it upon yourself to trust that I use good judgment in my life decisions.

Third, and finally, I just felt a bit deflated, like I had shared something that made me happy and it was met with unkindness.

Now all things considered, I do admit I’m getting too worked up about it. Most of my friends have been extremely supportive and have nothing but nice things to say. So I should just shut up and be thankful that most people do know me. But I just want to clarify any misconceptions about me or what’s been going on.

I’ll share more when the time is right. But for right now, just know that I am happy with the way things are going. I still have some rough roads ahead as I continue to get this house situation worked out with Rodney. But in the mean time… my life is moving on. I like the direction it’s moving, and I hope it continues to go well.

Here’s a photo with Brandon. Please give him a warm welcome:

Brandon is exactly who I would have imagined for you!
Not to be mean to Rodney (and you may not want to post this) but I have to say that I never understood your attraction to him - you two just didn’t seem to fit in terms of the “physical”. You, being a very good looking guy should have attracted a much more handsome man (sorry Rodney) which now you seem to have. First blush, you and Brandon look like you are perfectly matched and I predict only good and positive things from this new relationship. You are exactly where you need to be (and should have been). Congratulations.

He’s very cute (beautiful eyes)! Congrats!!!!!!!

Damn he has dreamy eyes! (btw - if you think you’re ready then you’re ready and you only have to answer to yourself… not us!) Those first few months of anything new are the most exciting - enjoy!

Rick - You’re much too shy!

Actually, other people have told me that. Not with the same amount of honesty, but in a round-about way, they have said Rodney and I never seemed to share the same energy and seemed misfit. Perhaps there was something in my body language that showed, even when I couldn’t detect it myself.

Once upon a time, we really had something special. There was a lot of private turmoil in our relationship that I’ve never shared with anyone, and probably never will. I really hate the way it ended, but it was probably for the best. Nonetheless, there were also many special times that will always be a part of who I am.

I do agree that Brandon and I are more “compatible”, at least from what I can see this far. We have very similar personalities, but also have our own differences, which keeps things interesting. Brandon is very fascinating actually. I’m sure I’ll be sharing more as time goes by, but I’m going to let him get final call on just how much I say.

I really appreciate your support. You always say such nice things.

J - Thank you! His eyes are spectacular. They are actually grey… which I’ve heard of, but never actually seen in person. But they turn green when I’m around. I wonder what that means.

Chris - Well said, thank you.

awwww… have fun… yall are cute…(and I never really understood you and rodney either)… best wishes!

I for one think it’s awesome that you found someone. Nathan, you have a lot to give as a person and it’s great to see you sharing that with a loving partner. Brandon is a lucky guy.

Congrats! I told you that there were more fish in the sea.

I’m not caring too much about the who’s, what’s, when, where and why’s of the whole deal…..I do, however, care that you believe you’re making the right decision — the well rounded, balanced, sustainable and positive decisions. And I want you healthy and happy…beyond that, who cares.

Cutie!! Looks very young!

Best,
Grego

Yummy!

Wow! He’s gorgeous! I’m so pleased for you and I wish you both all the luck in the world.

he sounds like such a nice guy, good luck. hopfully you will be able to resolve your living situation soon hugs

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Here I got all bent out of shape about a few negative comments when there was really all this love and support for me. What is it about human nature that makes us focus on negativity when there is so much kindness in the world?

Anyway, thank you everyone for giving Brandon such a warm welcome into this crazy little world of mine.

Oh Nathan, I’m so sorry if I implied that you were not making a good decision in seeing Brandon so soon after your breakup with Rodney. I was just concerned that you may not have given yourself time to heal.
I now realize that healing & growth move at different speeds for everyone, and if you know in your heart that you’re ready to love again– then you’re ready! I am so thrilled that you are happy with Brandon. Happiness is not always easy to come by in this world.
By the way, he does have beautiful eyes!
Welcome, Brandon! I am wishing both of you much happiness as you grow together.
With Love from the Minx

I seem to be late getting on board this post, but I know you’ll forgive me!

So–welcome Brandon! I agree with all of the nice, supportive comments made above–and very glad they took the time to comment.

Starting a relationship is so damn scary, no matter what the circumstances. Getting words of encouragement just feels good, and can’t we all use more of that?

Sending you big hugs and happy thoughts…

Congratulations Nathan! Knowing when enough is enough is a pretty good skill to have. Life is about our experiences and what we take away from them. I am sure that there were both and good times with Rodney. Take what you have learned and have a great time with Brandon. He is quite attractive. I agree with the earlier posters, his eyes are amazing.

I hope to hear many more stories and details about you guy and I truly wish you the best of luck.

Nathan, I am very happy for you! Brandon does look very cute, but knowing what I do know about you I bet his attractiveness is more than skin deep. I’m just glad you’re happy!