Nathan Exposed » What’s So Hot About Barebacking?

Let’s talk about sex. We’re all adults here, right? We can have a civilized conversation.

The spread of HIV is rising in alarming numbers. As we’re moving into the third decade of really knowing and understanding this disease, you’d think we’d all be smart enough to play it safe. But now risky sex has its own fetish name… “barebacking”. In case you don’t know, barebacking refers to having unprotected sex and is pretty much just used in the gay community.

What’s so hot about it? First of all, it says you don’t respect yourself. I don’t think that’s ever an attractive quality. Second, I don’t even see why it’s so exciting. Let’s look at it from the angle of the “top” and “bottom” (oh, how I hate those words…)

For tops:
When I am the penetrative partner and I wear a condom, I really can’t tell the difference. You can throw out that excuse that you “can’t feel anything”, because it feels damn good to me. The technology of condoms is very advanced, and there are many brands on the market today that are made to feel like a second skin.

Another excuse that a lot of guys used to make was that they were “too big” for a condom. HAHAHA! Let me pick myself off the floor from laughing. A study was done to prove that most condoms stretch to more than double the size of the average erect penis. In other words, there’s plenty of rubber to accommodate your size. I can make a water balloon out of a condom. If you’re telling me you’re bigger than that, we need to talk.

But just to put this old excuse to rest, manufacturers have started making “extra large” condoms, so again, no excuses. There is something available for everyone.

For bottoms:
A lot of guys say they don’t enjoy sex if they don’t get to feel their partner cum inside them. Most of that is psychological. The nerve endings inside you become progressively less sensitive past the prostate gland. In theory, you really can’t “feel” a guy ejaculate inside you. However, you can feel the force as it passes through his penis, which would feel exactly the same if it were covered in a condom.

When I am the receptive partner, I really can’t tell the difference. In fact, I’m kind of annoyed because now I’m going to have to go to the toilet and squeeze it out. There’s just nothing sexy about that.

I know, I know… some guys will probably argue my point. But if your ass were sensitive enough to actually feel the semen, having a bowel movement would be very painful because every nerve would be hit as it passed through your rectum. So you can’t really feel a man ejaculate inside you. But the mental image of it happening can cause you to imagine what it might feel like… so much that is does seem real.

Looking at it from two points of view, I just don’t see the appeal. I certainly don’t see a reason to risk your health and well being for a new sexual fetish.

Just wrap it up, guys! With the right condom, you won’t even know the difference! And I personally think that taking care of your health is very sexy.

Tue, Jan 15, 2008 @ 1:54 am | Filed in Gay, Sex | Permalink

8 Comments

I agree that in this day and age bb, shouldn’t happen. WE as a community work very hard to get the message of aids out, for a while new cases of aids in our community went down, and how it going back up. I do practice bb with my partner of 12 years, if and when we do play out side of the relationship condoms are used. and we still get tested every 6 months.

Posted by ecoralguy on Tue, Jan 15, 2008 @ 11:02 am

amen.

Posted by chris on Tue, Jan 15, 2008 @ 1:40 pm

I have been on both sides of the argument here. I am not proud of the fact that I have barebacked before, but it has happened. I do not make it a practice. I see nothing wrong with barebacking if you are in a relationship, but I personally could never play outside of a relationship (I’m too jealous). I have to agree with your point of views for both the top and the bottom, there is no difference in feeling with or without a condom, so why put yourself at risk by not using a condom?

Posted by Daniel on Tue, Jan 15, 2008 @ 5:55 pm

You said that “..there is something available for everyone.” This artice suggests otherwise.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/6161691.stm

Posted by DC on Tue, Jan 15, 2008 @ 6:36 pm

I think sex is more than the physical act there is a certain psychological component too. So maybe it’s just mental but I think there is a difference in the feeling between condom and no condom. With that said, I don’t really see a need to bareback unless you are in LTR. It’s just too dangerous and my life and the life of my sex partner is far more important than what ever difference I think there may be (real or perceived).

Posted by martini-dan on Tue, Jan 15, 2008 @ 8:14 pm

That has to be your sweetest post. You just reminded me there of a feeling I hadn’t felt in quite a while. Thanks Nathan.

And by the way, can you think where would you be without jack today? That’s hard to imagine, isn’t it?

Posted by danny on Thu, Jan 17, 2008 @ 11:10 am

Oops! Sorry that wasn’t meant to go there.

And although I agree with what you said, I still would like to try it once; you know, with someone I trust. Gotta love barebacking porn though!

Posted by danny on Thu, Jan 17, 2008 @ 11:15 am

ick! That’s all I could think about when reading this.

I like sex just as much as anyone else but maybe it’s the somewhat clinical approach, I don’t know, lol.

For me personally there is a definitive difference in “feeling” with and without a condom. That’s strictly from a top point of view though.

Still I wouldn’t chance it outside of a LTR - I value my own life too much not too mention that of the guy I’m with.

Thankfully I really don’t have to worry about it too much because I’m not one to seek out chance encounters anyway. Though I did plenty of that in my earlier years and I always used a condom even though it was less satisfying to me personally.

Jake and I both have promised each other that if either of us ever were to stray sexually we’ll be upfront about it immediately. A lot of people would say that would never happen. But an open and honest relationship is key. He wanted to talk with me about that very subject as much as I wanted to talk to him about it.

Contracting HIV scares the hell out of both of us. I just wish everyone in our community felt the same way.

Posted by Lika Starr on Fri, Jan 18, 2008 @ 9:34 pm