My friend Pete Parker suggested that I discuss the use (or mis-use) of the word “ironic”. It has been a mis-used word for decades actually, but Alanis Morissette’s hit song from 1996 gave the controversy new life. In the song, she sings examples of situations which actually aren’t ironic at all. They are “incongruous”, which means “lacking in harmony”, “inconsistent”, or “not in agreement”.
But irony is actually meant to describe sarcasm, or something that is the opposite of what is true. For example, it’s a rainy day, and you say “What a beautiful day!”
There are many types of irony - verbal, social, tragic, comic… The word is actually very complex, and very misunderstood. But one thing is certain - most people use it in situations which aren’t ironic at all.
Wikipedia has an excellent, in depth history of the word, as well as information on the controversy of it.