Nathan Exposed » never too old to change.

Rodney’s 90-year-old grandmother had never acknowledged me in the 5 years I’ve known her.

When she was put in the hospital, I told Rodney I didn’t want to go. I had decided that my homosexuality made her uncomfortable. There is no point in trying to force the issue with a 90-year-old woman.

Rodney insisted that I was wrong. He told me that she is a very shy person, and has never been good at socializing with people. He said it was very important that I come with him, so I gave in.

When we walked into the room, I put on my biggest smile and tried to work the charm. I was talkative and social. She talked directly to me, and actually seemed to notice me finally. At the end of our visit, she told Rodney to come back and see her. She then grabbed my hand and told me to come back too.

We had such a good visit that we decided to stop by and see her again before leaving town. I was kind of tired, so I didn’t say much. Then she said to Rodney “So what does your partner do for a job?”

PARTNER?!

Where did she learn that word? I couldn’t believe my ears. I perked up and starting telling her about my job. She then used the word again. WHAAAAT?

Before we left, she nudged me and said “I want to see you again. You’re my grandson too.”

I was touched by what she said. She has never acknowledged or discussed the fact that Rodney is gay. Now she’s using the term “partner” and calling me her “grandson.” It was a day I’ll never forget.

If a 90-year-old woman can accept us for who we are, I might just have a little more faith in this world. Evolution takes place every day. I witnessed it myself.

Mon, Jun 19, 2006 @ 12:13 pm | Filed in Gay | Permalink

10 Comments

Im so happy for you Nathan, it took my nan whos 81 4 years before she would speak to me when i first came out.

She still doesnt aknowledge me as “gay” but at least were on speaking terms.

Im so happy for you way to go

Posted by LiamUK on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 @ 1:58 pm

That is such a lovely story. Warms my heart.

Posted by enihsnus on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 @ 8:01 pm

What a sweet post, Nathan. This made my day.

Posted by Steve on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 @ 8:53 pm

You just can’t be sure what people really think sometimes, can you? What a great surprise!

I’m happy for you both!

Posted by john on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 @ 9:20 pm

This is the sweetest story ever!

Posted by Dan Turning 40 on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 @ 10:44 pm

You got to love old people! They have gotten to a point in their life that they either are bitter and cynical or they are open and excepting. i’m glad for you that she was the latter.

Posted by TJ on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 @ 1:45 am

Okay, this made me a little weepy. How sweet I’m glad you decided to go.

Posted by cindy on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 @ 7:49 am

“I had decided that my homosexuality made her uncomfortable”

Don’t assume.

Posted by purpletwinkie on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 @ 10:02 am

I’m glad you all liked it. Actually it happened a few weeks ago. I don’t know why I didn’t post it sooner.

Thanks xoxo

Posted by Nathan on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 @ 12:51 pm

I got a little tear in my eye that was so sweet. Just goes to show ya!

Posted by sugarfoot on Wed, Jun 21, 2006 @ 12:39 am