Nathan Exposed » Secrets Exposed #1

This secret was submitted by “Paul” (reprinted with permission):

I am in a similar relationship to the one you were in prior to the one you are in now. It is crazy. I stay in it out of convenience. We have fun together…I adore him and would never want to hurt him. I care for him dearly and it is so screwy. I keep hoping that in time I will feel as strongly for him as he does for me. I mean, it is NOT the worst relationship ever and he has MANY good qualities that I love about him.

I will admit that I was monogamous for the first year and a half but I was miserable. It shouldn’t be all about the sex and it isn’t. He is…well he is a “man” so to speak. Very selfish in bed. No romance. No passion. No foreplay. He wants to “fuck my ass” and then I jerk off and he goes to sleep. Or he wants me to jerk off WHILE he fucks my ass. I got soooo bored with that that I finally told him either change or I will cheat.

He changed for a few weeks. He doesn’t suck. He hates to rim. He doesn’t like to be fucked (but gives in some) and if he finally lets me he whines the entire time that it hurts and “Are you done yet?”

THAT is a real turn on let me tell ya! So…why did I stay with him? He makes me laugh. He is fun. I enjoy his company. I really thought I could deal with the sex issues.

Yes…I cheat and honestly a part of me really doesn’t care if he catches me and then maybe he would just leave…I know…that is bad.

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Fri, Nov 18, 2005 @ 7:36 am | Filed in Secrets | Permalink

2 Comments

I feel so unbelievably sad for Paul. While I don’t think sex should play a huge role in a relationship, sounds like Paul is left very dissatisfied sexually and that is a major issue. I had a long relationship like that and eventually everything became unstuck. I think Paul should just be honest and come clean to put all the cards on the table, which would be a fair thing to do for the both of them.

Posted by Sunshine on Sat, Nov 19, 2005 @ 6:35 pm

Are you done yet?! That is traumatising! That sounds really hard mate. Maybe you are meant to just be friends, seeing as you enjoy eachother’s company so much, but the physical thing is not happening. It’s really hard when the desire is unbalanced I hope you can get it sorted. Good luck.

Posted by Jellygnite on Sun, Nov 20, 2005 @ 2:52 am