Happy birthday, Jason!
Although the actual 25th anniversary of the “Friday the 13th” series was this past summer, the celebration of it has been reserved for the Halloween season. Cast and crew from all 11 of the installments in the horror series gathered at Universal Studios to celebrate. Sounds like fun.
I love the “Friday the 13th” movies. They have no plot, bad acting, and all that stuff, but they are classics in the history of American horror cinema. Now there is a new book called “Crystal Lake Memories: The Complete History of Friday the 13th” to celebrate the anniversary.
The book also covers all the deaths of Jason’s victims over the years. The most memorable one to me was in “Jason Goes to Hell” when that couple was having sex in the woods, the girl was on top and Jason split her in half. That was gory & disturbing, though clever.
To top it all off, apparently there is a Freddy vs. Jason vs. Michael Myers movie being worked on. Wow.
This morning, on the way to work, traffic was a little heavy so I was just rolling along. This guy who was 2 lanes over was picking his nose, and we’re talking deep, like there was a buried treasure up there.
After he got done digging, he stuck his finger in his mouth … and looked quite satisfied.
What is wrong with people?
Nearly a month ago, my friend Sunshine wrote a post about how disgusting he thinks straight guys are. One of the things he mentioned was hygiene.
This really got me thinking. I have actually known a lot of stinky straight guys. If there a shortage on anti-perspirants? Do they know how to wash clothes? I don’t know.
But I mentioned it to my friend Cory and he knew he had to prove me wrong. I was sitting at my desk and he walked right over to me and said “Smell me”. He pulled his shirt out and said “Come on, smell me”. Most things don’t embarrass me, but Cory has a knack for it. I was embarrassed and he wasn’t going away.
I should note that Cory is well over 6 feet tall. When I am sitting and he is standing, you can guess where my face aligns with him.
I finally had to stand up so because this was just too weird. I couldn’t bring myself to sniff him, he went back to his desk.
Then, the next day, we were in his car going to lunch. He asked me how he smelled. I thought about it, but decided I still didn’t want to.
So this morning, I grabbed Cory by the wrist and gave him a smell. He smelled pretty good, like soap actually. Then he told me to smell his shirt. It smelled like a clean shirt. (But what else did he expect from the shirt?)
So now I can say there is at least one straight guy that I know smells good.
This one is for you, Sunshine 
…okay, so it’s really Burbank. But the subject line would be less interesting that way.
Next week, Rodney and I are taking a little vacation to California to be at the Ellen Degeneres Show. As it’s getting closer, I’m really excited about it. I love Ellen, I’ve talked about her many times on here, as well as the profound influence she had on me coming out in 1997.
And now we will be in the same room with her, maybe even closer. Plus, her show is so much fun in general. I know it will be great to see it taped live. I’ll probably have a lot to blog about 
Every night, I take Petey on a walk up and down the sidewalk of our neighborhood. Everyone in the neighborhood is very good about cleaning up after their dog, and I am the same way. I always clean up Petey’s poop so that nobody steps in it.
Little Petey seems to have an obsession with pooping on people’s steps. I don’t know why. Most of the time he is fine to go in the grass, but every couple of days, he just has to poop on steps.
We are in the process of training him, so anytime he poops outside, I am so happy and I don’t want to stop him. So I just let him finish up, then I quickly scoop it up and put it in the bag. It never fails that the owner opens their door or looks out the window while he’s mid-poop.
Oh well, I think it’s a little funny.
Tonight he went into this large patch of grass and pooped. It was dark and I couldn’t see where he did it, so I left it. I know…I’m evil. I hope nobody steps in it.
Also, there is this one house that Petey stops in front of and gets a little scared. I can’t figure out why. There is nothing unusual about it at all….except that the owners have Bush bumper stickers. Does Petey know?
Target stores have (quietly) started selling the DVD box sets for Showtime’s 2 gay-themed series, “Queer As Folk” and “The L Word”. I was surprised when I realized this.
I first noticed it last week when we were in Illinois. We were at a small town Target and I noticed “The L Word” on one of the main displays. What? Target was selling “The L Word”? I was impressed, but also disappointed that they didn’t have “Queer As Folk”. I figured it is easier to accept gay women than gay men… it always has been.
Then last night I was at the Brentwood Target, right outside of Nashville. Brentwood is yet another small town, so I don’t expect too many gay DVD’s in their stores. Low and behold, there was “Queer As Folk” and “The L Word” in our little neighborhood Target.
So kudos to you Target. Gay people already *love* Target for a number of reasons. They have a great home decor section and actually a lot of the stuff is inexpensive without looking cheap. We have also started going to them for unique birthday and holiday cards because they have a lot of creative cards that you won’t find in Hallmark. And I’ve never been to a Target that didn’t have good customer service.
On top of all the great things about Target, they are now carrying the most controversial gay themed series on TV. Wow.

Hear ye! Hear ye! The Season of Pressure is among us!
In fourteen days we will officially enter the Season of Pressure. Beginning with Halloween, this burdensome period of time will last well into February. For many of us the pressure will mount and mount until we are forced to eat sixteen tons of candy, become lethargic and moody, and denounce family and love for all eternity.
Ah yes, Halloween. Should you get a pumpkin? If so, how should you carve it? Are traditional jack-o-lantern patterns in these days? And don’t forget the candy. Snickers, Kit Kats or Tootsie Rolls? All three? And that’s just the tip of the tall witch’s hat. What about costumes? You’ll have to outdo what you came up with last year. And you better best the show-off from down the block. And once you have finally decided, where will you wear your outfit? Have you been invited to the hottest party yet?
Now, once all that nonsense is over with, we move on to Thanksgiving. To host or not to host? That is the question. Pumpkin or pecan? That is another. Should we use the good silverware? How can we possibly squeeze your family and mine in here? Remember, your cousin is a vegetarian; better pick up some tofurkey.
Before you can even clear the last casserole dish from the table, it’s time to go Christmas shopping. In fact, you may want to start that now. It’s never too soon to look for the perfect gift. And you might want to get the lights up on the house before it gets too cold and rainy. Are you doing Christmas cards this year?
And how much thought have you put into New Year’s? It’s just not acceptable to stay home and watch the ball drop, you know. Parties, dates, outfits – all must be planned weeks in advance. You don’t want to be stuck home alone when 2006 arrives. Or worse yet, you don’t want to be without a kiss at that magical moment.
Speaking of kisses, do you have a valentine lined up? If not, you may be one of the lucky ones. If so, remember that all the best spots in town fill up fast for the night of February fourteenth.
Now, take a deep breath and ready yourself. The Season of Pressure is just around the corner. Good luck.
We’ve all seen the traditional gay pride flag on mousepads, cards, bumper stickers, etc. And I love it because of the simplistic symbolism it represents. It takes all the colors to make a rainbow, and it takes all kinds of people to make this world. That is the rainbow flag to me.
One day recently I decided to play around with the rainbow design. The result is what I call “Pride Remixed”. It is still a minimalistic approach, but I think this design has a fun retro feel to it.
The design is very flexible, and I’ve decided to start selling it in different mediums. I’m starting with mousepads and greeting cards. Thanks to CafePress.com, I can add the design to all kinds of items and sell them online. CafePress.com handles the printing and shipping, and offers an easy, secure shopping cart. Plus, they give a few dollars of the profit to me, so you’re supporting the artist by buying them.
Click here to learn more about the Pride Remixed mousepad.
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Click here to learn more about the Pride Remixed greeting cards
Sold in packages of 6 (envelopes included).
There is a large variety of items I can put it on… t-shirts, sweatshirts, stickers, boxers, etc. So if you have any request, let me know. And I will be adding more products soon.
And remember, these are original designs by yours truly. You are the first ones to see them, and I’m offering them on my blog first.
It’s funny how a little bit of honesty can get people to open up so much. I’ve learned a lot about my fellow bloggers in the past 24 hours. Yesterday I posted the 2nd portion of my “about me” bio. I really put myself out there with how I felt about various life topics.
I got the most response about drugs and spirituality (some of it via e-mail).
The response to drugs was obvious. Some people agreed with me, others didn’t. No surprises there. But the response to “spirituality” made me realize an important point.
The people who agreed with me about my beliefs in God are the nicest people who have had a profound influence on my life as a blogger. They are the people who have been there for me through thick and thin… well at least for the last 3 months of it.
But the people who do not believe in God have been very inconsiderate towards me. They are friendly on a social level, but when the chips are down, they are nowhere to be found. A prime example is when Rodney’s father had a heart attack and actually died before the ambulance got there and revived him. That was a horrible time for us. And the people who don’t believe in God didn’t even offer a kind word to me, much less ask how his father was doing.
I didn’t expect them to say “I’ll pray for his father’s recovery” because that is not what they believe in and I accept that. But they could have at least said “I will be thinking of you guys”. Is it too much to ask for a little support when someone is lying on their death bed?
Even if you don’t believe in God, that’s no excuse to ignore me when times were rough. Have a little heart, that’s all I’m saying.
And if I hadn’t wrote what I did yesterday, I would never realized it. Honesty can teach us so much.
Update: This message is already being misunderstood. It is not a jab at people who don’t believe in God. I am simply observing that the same people who had a problem with my previous post also seem to be the ones who ignored me when they should have supported me.
If you aren’t one of those people, there is no need to be upset because I am not referencing you.
Update 2: What a rough day. It irritates me because I feel I’ve received backlash for the things I wrote. People always want the truth…until it conflicts with their own truths.
My #1 rule is to never go on another person’s blog and disagree with their posts. Why? Because a blog is like a journal, and it’s very personal and self-absorbed. If you can’t say how you really feel in your journal, where can you say it?
If I were starting a forum, I would certainly welcome a healthy debate. Or if I were taking a poll, I would ask you to weigh-in on the subjects. I was not taking a poll, and I was not starting a forum.
If you don’t like what I have to say, please say it on your blog, not mine. I am not seeking approval and I will not stop being myself on my own blog.
In my first chapter, I only listed very light facts about myself. But now I am going to talk about the very heavy stuff that I feel very strongly about.
Some people might not like what they read, but remember that this is my blog and these are my views.
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Spirituality
- I was raised Catholic and I believe the religion made it so much harder to for me to deal with being gay because of the way Catholic churches push judgement and intolerance into its “family values”
- I do not believe that hate should be a family value
- I believe very strongly in God. But I will not force my beliefs on other people, because I know how it feels to be on the receiving end
- When I was growing up, I knew I was “different” and I was an outcast at school. In 5th grade, my Mom sent a letter to Mother Teresa asking for her to pray for me. Mother Teresa sent me a prayer and a blue plastic Rosary. I have carried that Rosary in my left pocket (the side of my heart) every day for over 12 years. It is very cracked and worn, but remains strong and unbreakable, just like me.
Hot Button Topics
- I have never done drugs, and I am very against them. I have seen a lot of friends ruin their lives because of drugs. It’s just not worth it. But I’m not very sensitive about it. If somebody talks about them, I don’t necessarily care. But it will knock my respect for you down a level or two.
- I am also against abortion and consider it murder. I don’t like it when politicians discuss abortion and gay marriage in the same sentence. Making a commitment to the person you love has no relation to killing a baby. I am also offended by women who use abortion as birth control. As a gay man, I know it is going to be a struggle to have a child, especially if it is through adoption. While I’m working so hard to get a baby, someone else is ripping it out of her like it’s nothing. Just like religion, I refuse to debate it.
- I don’t understand why our country is “at war” and I think this “war” has been the biggest hoax in history. I try to remain in denial because it upsets me so much to think about how many innocent people are dying.
Body Modification
- When I was 17, I got a scorpion tattoo because of my astrological sign. The astrological analysis of my personality is very accurate and I fit almost every Scorpio stereotype there is. But I have very little faith in horoscopes (which people confuse with astrology).
- I used to think guys with piercings were so hot. It’s a good thing I never got one myself. Some holes don’t heal.
Gay Stuff
- I started my first relationship with a guy when I was 15. I came out to my parents when I was 16. It’s been a continuous process but I am pretty open these days.
- Being gay in high school caused a lot of problems for me. We’re talking real hate crimes here. You can find me venting about the demons of my past throughout my blog, but most of it is in the “Gay” category.
- I don’t believe in “open” relationships. I think it is an excuse to say “I’m too much of a slut to make a commitment, so I’m just going to make up a term for it so that people will accept my need to fuck everyone.” Yeah, I know that sounds harsh. But sexually transmitted diseases are still a problem for all people (straight, gay, bi…) and we are losing the fight. Condoms are not guaranteed and there are some diseases that condoms cannot prevent. Futher, it is hard to push for gay marriage when “open relationships” confirm stereotypes about gay men.
- I don’t understand bisexuals. I’ve had to fight for everything I have, while they get to ride the fence. That doesn’t mean I dislike them. I just don’t understand them. The only bisexuals I’ve known ended up finally coming to me and say “You were right, Nathan, I really am gay and I was just scared.” So I’ve never actually known a “real” bisexual in person.