Everybody Has Secrets
As much as I hate them, it’s impossible to avoid them.
Accepting that we all have secrets is a difficult pill to swallow. I’m endlessly curious about everyone, and would like to believe that I know everything about the people I love.
When I find out someone has a secret, I get upset. I realize a person can’t possibly share all their secrets at once. Even if they have the honest intention to tell me everything, it can’t be done overnight.
But the unknown scares me. Getting to know a person takes awhile, and I’m still getting to know Daniel. He’s 43 and I’m 28. With a 15 year age gap between us, it’s just inevitable that he has more history than I do.
So I’m learning new things; some good, some bad. None of them deal breakers. We just have a past. We ALL have a past. We all have things we wish hadn’t happened, and wish they’d go away. But when these secrets get brought to the surface, they can be haunting.
I guess it’s my intense curiosity about human nature that keeps me entertained. But I’m often unprepared for what I’ll discover underneath.
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The past is the past. However many ‘secrets’ we hold, it’s all in the past and in part, it’s what makes us who we are today. Focus on your present. The beautiful relationship that you two are nurturing.
WOW Daniel is 43? Holy geezer-cow… haha j/k
I gotta say that it one hot 43 year old….if you get a chance ask him what miracle cream he uses.. ;P
Thank you Robert
And Nick, he’ll really appreciate hearing that. The miracle cream he uses is me, of course. Haha!
Embrace it….the secrets, that is. Don’t pretend like they are all bad. Or good. If I ask you to tell me about yourself, there will certainly be parts of your life that you intentionally leave out. That’s human nature. It’s what makes us…US. I think you get a little too wound up about these sorts of things sometime, my friend. And you’re not alone. I just want you to never be caught off guard….but when something does come up that surprises you — no matter what — don’t let it control you. Let it become a part of the life you craft together — a part of the picture.
PS — Maybe this post will remind you of what each of us is capable of……I’d hate to think that my LoverBoy, or you, or anyone….would toss me out to the curb as garbage because of something I’d done in my past. Or even today.
http://spiritofsaintlewis.blogspot.com/2010/02/flesh-and-spirit.html
Thank you Lewis. Like I said, it’s nothing bad about him, just a bit surprising
My boyfriend is 21 years older. I win!